When it comes to losing weight, do you start your day out with great intentions knowing what you want to do to lose weight.
But then your brain throughout the day and especially by the evening starts telling you a different story of what you want.
Was it that you wanted to eat just one donut that was in the lunchroom, but then your brain after eating one donut is telling you that you want more?
Is it that you told yourself you wanted to follow your “diet,” but now your brain wants you to stop at the drive-through on the way home?
Do you feel confused about what you do really want in those moments?
Are you frustrated that no matter what you are wanting when it comes to losing weight, your brain seems to take over and work hard to convince you that you want something else?
It is hard to know what to do when you feel stuck between knowing what you want and then wanting something so different when you are in a new situation.
It is in those moments when you are having cravings or a desire your brain wants you to believe that you want something different than what you initially said you wanted.
So what are you supposed to believe?
Did you know that you don’t have to believe everything that you hear and everything you hear is not always true?
I know for me in the evenings when I was watching tv after a long day, I knew I wanted a small bowl of ice cream. What ended up happening is I ate that bowl and at that moment, that one bowl was not enough. All I wanted was more, and I believed I needed more and guess what I always ended up having more.
I believed everything that my brain was telling me, “that I really wanted it,” “that I really needed it,” “that I can start again tomorrow.”
Why this happened is because I didn’t realize at that moment all I wanted was to feel better after my long day. My only thought (and I was not even aware of some of my thoughts) at that time was “I want to feel better” or “I deserve this.”
In that moment of eating more, I was not thinking about losing weight; my brain was doing an excellent job, making me believe I needed all that food.
What I didn’t know was those thoughts I was having at that moment was my brain’s way of looking out for me.
My brain believed that I needed to feel better because my thoughts were causing me to feel discomfort. My brain was conditioned to think that food would make me feel better because the food was my go to for so long.
So at that moment, I was not thinking about my long term goals at all, but that didn’t mean I didn’t want them anymore, I just wasn’t thinking about them.
In those moments when you know what you want, but your brain is telling you something different; I want you to ask yourself this question:
“If you were not in this moment of confusion or frustration right now, that you were not feeling what you are feeling right now- what would you choose?”
At that moment, why you think you want food is because of what you think the food will provide you… COMFORT!
What would your future or past self say to you? Would they say they don’t want you to eat it or they don’t want you to have more than one?
So getting very clear about what your true wants are is so important, and you can only do that when you are in a calm, clear emotional space. When you are not feeling the urges or intense emotions, this is the time to write out your true wants.
The wants that come up when you are having cravings, urges or dealing with a situation that is causing negative emotions; these are not your true wants.
To stop the confusion, you have to be honest with yourself, and when you are honest with yourself, you will be able to choose what it is you truly want to believe.
So get clear on your true wants and practice thinking about them over and over again so that when your brain starts working hard on convincing you to believe something different than what your true wants are, you can step up and remind yourself what you truly want.
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Hugs,
Karen
